::10 Mistakes that can kill your Relationship::

No relationship is perfect. However, there are several serious pitfalls that will end a relationship very quickly if you don't try to avoid them. The 10 items below are some of the most common and serious mistakes than can keep you from having the lasting relationship you want.

1. Cheating.
Being unfaithful is the number one way to end a relationship. If you want to see someone else, be responsible enough to end your relationship first. Anything else is just being dishonest and cowardly.

2. Hanging on to Your Ex.
While it's very important to remember your past mistakes, it's also important to move on. If you're still hung up on your ex, perhaps it's too early to start a new relationship. Even when you think you have no feelings left, if you're stuck in a pattern of bringing up your ex all the time when you talk with your new partner, you should do some serious thinking about where you've been and where you're heading. Your current partner deserves your full attention. It's only fair.

3. Rushing Things.
Relationships develop at their own pace. Some move quickly, others move slowly and steadily. If you push your partner too much, you risk pushing them away. Two prime examples of this are the timing of physical intimacy and saying "I love you." Both of these things are best when they happen naturally. You'll both know when the time is right and the relationship won't be strained.

4. Being Ruled by Jealousy.
Often feelings of intense jealousy are caused by past relationships. If your partner is open and honest, you shouldn't feel threatened by incidental contact with someone else. Conversation and interaction is normal. Trust is also important. If you become jealous with your partner without real cause, it can seriously harm your relationship.

5. Focusing too Much on the Future. When relationships are new, it's not the time to dwell too much on the future. Live for the day. The flush of excitement of a new relationship only happens once. Instead of worrying about what's coming next, enjoy what you have now. Often when one partner is too concerned about the future, the other partner is scared away thinking that they are too serious. Again, live for the moment and enjoy where you are.

6. Failure to Balance Friendships With the Relationship.
It's important for each of you to have friends. People often take things very personally when someone talks badly about a friend. Because of these two things, it's critical to allow your partner time with and for their friends while avoiding talking badly about them. No one is perfect - most of our friends have quirks. Just remember that your friends can be a little strange, too. Finally, don't feel threatened when your partner wants to do something with their friends.

7. Failure to Communicate.
Open honest communication is one of the most important things in a healthy relationship. When you keep secrets or even feel too embarrassed to discuss your thoughts, it can build walls between you and your partner. Yes, there is a risk that your feelings or thoughts might end up causing problems in the relationship. However, if there's a break-up because you're not compatible, that's OK. In fact it's far better to find that out than to pretend you're something you're not.

8. Forcing your Partner to Change.
This is the flip-side of #7. If you can't accept who your partner is, you probably should find someone else. When you force your partner to change, there is often resentment and the changes rarely last. Even when a partner has a real problem, we can't "fix" them. We can encourage, but if they don't commit to the change on their own, it just won't happen.

9. Blaming Your Partner.
A relationship takes two people. So do relationship problems. It can be very difficult and often painful to admit our part in relationship problems, but an honest look at our actions is critical. If you expect your partner to face the blame for a problem all alone, don't be surprised when they don't want to do anything else with your either.

10. Staying After the Feeling is Gone.
If you're just going through the motions in a relationship, your partner knows it. If the relationship is worth saving, you both need to talk and find a way to reignite the spark If not, you should be honest enough to admit that the relationship is over. Often we're stuck in these ruts because the uncomfortable "known" seems better than the scary "unknown." In reality, a flat relationship will not last, and will often lead to serious conflict.

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::目光::

魏如昀-目光

走在每天行走的街上 看著人来人往
这世界平常的 好像你没有离开一样
回忆是很美的地方 却不适合独自前往
所以我向前走 不看我们的过往
当我爱上一个人 我会把自己遗忘
我最深爱的你 是我全部的阳光
当我离开一个人 你却还在我心上
用眼泪告诉我 我离不开你身旁
想念是泪水的重量 我很努力去抵抗
心却痛的让我依靠眼里的泪光
原来爱像玫瑰一样 有不能忘的花香
就算它枯萎了 那香味仍让我收藏
当我爱上一个人 我会把自己遗忘
我最深爱的你 是我全部的阳光
当我离开一个人 你却还在我心上
用眼泪告诉我 我离不开你身旁
当我爱上一个人 我会把自己遗忘
我最深爱的你 是我全部的阳光
当我离开一个人 你却还在我心上
用眼泪告诉我 我离不开你身旁
这世界再多的美好 我可以全都不要
我只想在你身边 看你最温柔的目光
我只想在你身边 看你最温柔的目光

Don't why, I just seems to connect with this song. It makes me feel sad... Emo-ing